Two Mothers

Behind every adopted child stands two mothers. One is plainly visible and one is obscure. One definition of obscure given in the dictionary is "not readily understood." This is the obscurity of the birth mother. Unless the adoption is open and there has been communication, the birth mom remains a shadow; always present yet indistinct.

A child who wonders about where they came from may have a picture, yet they have no facts to go with it. Or, if there are facts, they are sketchy. There may be a clear reason the child was given a second home, such as illness or abuse, yet the feelings, emotions and the histories that go with these facts are never told.

Both my sons have birth moms. One has a name and picture, the other probably never will. One seemed to have given up her rights because of selfishness, the other may have been selfless. However, the one thing that links them together is that they both are left to wonder where their child is and how they are doing.

For all the birth moms out there left wondering, I say thank you. Thank you for giving your children Life. Your sons and daughters are being cared for. They are treasured, safe and well. They are growing strong and learning new things every day. They run, jump, climb, and swim. They play soccer, baseball, basketball and hockey. They dance, draw, and sing. They say their prayers at night and in those prayers they remember you.